There’s a website circulating right now that has exposed something deeply disturbing 🙁

A space where harm is not only spoken about…but taught. Encouraged. Normalised.

It’s confronting and it asks something from all of us….

Because this isn’t something ‘out there’ and far away from us. It speaks to a culture that can quietly take hold much closer to home, in ways that aren’t always obvious at first.

I sit with young people every week. I listen. I notice.

And I see how early these influences can begin.

Not always in big, loud ways – but in the small comments, the jokes, the attitudes that slip through unchallenged. The moments where respect isn’t modelled. Where harmful ideas are left to grow without anything steady beside them to guide them differently.

This isn’t about blame.

This is about responsibility.

For all of us who are in positions to shape culture – whether that’s in our homes, our schools, our communities, or spaces like Nimbin Youth.

Because the work starts earlier than we often think.

It starts with boys learning how to understand their emotions.
What respect actually looks like.
What consent really means.
What healthy, safe relationships feel like – not just in theory, but in everyday life.

And not as a one-off convo.

As something we live. Model. Reinforce.

And I want to say this clearly!

This is not about ‘all men’

I have beautiful sons.
A loving husband.
A stepdad, brothers and men around me who show up with kindness, integrity and respect. Men who are role models. Mentors. Safe humans.

They are part of the reason I believe so strongly that a different way is not only possible – it’s already here.

At Nimbin Youth, we hold space for these conversations.

We create room for young people – especially young men – to unpack what they’ve seen, what they’ve heard, what they’ve absorbed.

Not with shame. But with honesty. With care. And with accountability.

Because this is where real change begins.

I see both sides of this work every day.

The impact of harm.
And the possibility of healing.

And I believe this isn’t hopeless.

But it does ask something of all of us.

To keep showing up.
To keep speaking up
To question what doesn’t feel right.
To guide, even when it feels uncomfortable.

To the women reading this – your anger is heard. Your exhaustion is real. You shouldn’t have to carry this 🙁

And to the men who are doing the work – thank you. That matters more than you might ever be told.

This is how change happens x