A lot of humans ask how we still love each other ~ like, really love each other. The kind where you still laugh, still talk about dreams, still check in just to say, “Hey, you ok my love?”

We’re Rain and Wick ~ married 12 years, together 18. We’ve built a whole life (and a few wild adventures) side by side. And if there’s one thing we’ve learned, it’s that love doesn’t stay alive on autopilot.

For us, being married isn’t a part-time gig. It’s showing up for each other, every day. It’s listening to what the other’s into, caring about their dreams, their worries, what they’re watching, learning, listening to. It’s the tiny daily choices that say, “I see you”

Psychology tells us that long-term love isn’t about constant passion ~ it’s about attunement. That ability to stay curious about your human. To notice. To ask questions instead of making assumptions. And maybe to laugh together when neither of you has it figured out (Which, in our case, is most days lol)

It’s not forced, there’s no hate, no coercion. It’s safe here. We respect each other’s boundaries, give each other space and we’re excited to come back to one another.

Humour is stitched into everything (including our marriage). He’s my Big Pea, I’m his Little Pea and we’re both here for it.

We’re not perfect. We’re not the “perfect couple” This is just our experience.

But it’s beautiful and it works for us ♡

Love Rain xx